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July 20, 2011

Bigger Than His Body

Filed under: — elana @ 11:45 IST

My beautiful, smart, funny, geeky, blue-eyed, bearded, amazing husband died last night with me and two of his aunts holding him.

 

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  1. Dear Elana, my love & hugs to you. D

    Comment by UnderMeOxter — July 20, 2011 @ 11:47 IST

  2. Dearest Elana. All my love to you, the boys, and the family. I am so sorry. Rest in peace, Brendan.

    Comment by Rachael — July 20, 2011 @ 11:48 IST

  3. Elana, massive love and hugs to you and your family. K

    Comment by Karen — July 20, 2011 @ 11:48 IST

  4. My deepest sympathies, dear Elana. Hugs to you and the boys. Rest in peace, Brendan….

    Comment by D — July 20, 2011 @ 11:52 IST

  5. My heart is breaking for you. So much love for you and your boys. :( We’re all holding you and wishing we could do more.

    Comment by Kylie — July 20, 2011 @ 11:52 IST

  6. I’m so very sorry for your loss…

    Comment by Mo — July 20, 2011 @ 11:53 IST

  7. I am so so sorry. I don’t know what else to say. My love and prayers are with you all. Just so unfair.

    Comment by Renee Borden — July 20, 2011 @ 11:53 IST

  8. So very sad, his loss is tragic. Glad you could be there to say goodbye. Lots of love.

    Comment by Yvonne — July 20, 2011 @ 11:54 IST

  9. Very sorry and think of you and the boys.

    Comment by carol — July 20, 2011 @ 11:55 IST

  10. oh no. I am so sorry. I am so happy you were there with him. Love to all of you he was a wonderful man

    Comment by Karen — July 20, 2011 @ 11:55 IST

  11. I am so sorry. Thinking of you and the boys, constantly.

    Comment by Dixie — July 20, 2011 @ 11:56 IST

  12. Very sorry, Elana. Hugs and love to you and your boys.

    Comment by Marta — July 20, 2011 @ 11:56 IST

  13. :-( ((((

    Comment by Nick — July 20, 2011 @ 11:56 IST

  14. Oh Elana

    Comment by Roseanne — July 20, 2011 @ 11:57 IST

  15. I am so very very sorry. Rest in peace Brendan. All my love, hugs and sympathies to you, the boys and your families.

    Comment by Laura — July 20, 2011 @ 11:58 IST

  16. My very deepest sympathies. Prayers for peace and comfort for you and your family. We all know he will be watching over you and never very far away.

    Comment by Heather — July 20, 2011 @ 11:58 IST

  17. Very sorry to hear this news. Sincere condolences to you all. I’m surrounded by memories of him here in work and will miss him greatly. :-(

    Comment by Tommy — July 20, 2011 @ 11:59 IST

  18. Lost.for.words.

    Comment by Evert Bopp — July 20, 2011 @ 11:59 IST

  19. I am so very sorry for your loss.

    Comment by Sidheag — July 20, 2011 @ 12:00 IST

  20. So very sorry. My sympathies to you and the boys. I’ve been thinking of you often the last few months.

    Comment by Sue — July 20, 2011 @ 12:01 IST

  21. So sorry for your loss.

    Comment by Damian — July 20, 2011 @ 12:02 IST

  22. My deepest sympathies to you and the boys. Holding you all in my thoughts and prayers.

    Comment by Mary — July 20, 2011 @ 12:03 IST

  23. This is so very sad and I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.

    Comment by gingerknits — July 20, 2011 @ 12:03 IST

  24. Sad beyond words. Rest in peace Brendan.

    Comment by Kevin — July 20, 2011 @ 12:04 IST

  25. So very very sorry! To Brendan: rest in peace and know you’ll always be remembered and admired; to you and the family: hold tight and be well and know that there are many people thinking of you with sympathy and sharing your sorrow.

    Comment by David — July 20, 2011 @ 12:06 IST

  26. Oh Elana, I’m broken hearted for you and the boys. I can’t imagine the grief you feel right now. I know it’s no comfort, but we are all thinking of you and sending you all our love & strength for the days ahead. R.I.P. Brendan, truly a giant among men.

    Comment by Sinéad — July 20, 2011 @ 12:06 IST

  27. I’m so sorry. My heart is breaking for you and the boys.

    Comment by Eleanor — July 20, 2011 @ 12:06 IST

  28. I am so sorry, Elana and family. So sorry.

    Comment by Jennifer — July 20, 2011 @ 12:07 IST

  29. I’m so sorry. Love to you and the boys.

    Comment by Tara — July 20, 2011 @ 12:07 IST

  30. I am so desperately sorry for your tremendous loss Elena
    Thinking of you and your family Jxx

    Comment by June — July 20, 2011 @ 12:09 IST

  31. Deepest sympathies and commiseratons Elana, to you and your family. Brendan will be sorely missed by everybody, not least those like us who had the privelege to work alongside him and experience his enthusiasm and joy at being in the heart of technology. He lived his short, wonderful life at a time which gave him such great opportunity to express himself. His world revolved around you, the boys and technology and he wore it all on his slieve like a badge of honor. We remembered him yesterday in a way he would surely approve of – lunch in Romano’s and then home to a wireless authentication problem on my network.
    His like won’t be seen again.

    Comment by Tom Moore — July 20, 2011 @ 12:10 IST

  32. Elana, my heart goes out to you and your family. I have only had the honour of meeting Brendan just once last December. I can still hear you telling me in early March that he had a bad cold…..Yesterday was the first I heard that he had leukaemia. I have spent the last few hours reading over this very moving and poignant blog. Brendan Kehoe, may he rest in peace

    Comment by Eileen O'Duffy — July 20, 2011 @ 12:10 IST

  33. Just so bloody unfair.
    X

    Comment by Mairead — July 20, 2011 @ 12:11 IST

  34. I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your boys.

    Comment by HelenMc — July 20, 2011 @ 12:11 IST

  35. Elana, to you and your boys and family, my deepest sympathy and a massive furious scream at the universe on your behalf. We willalways remember you, Brendan.

    Comment by Oona — July 20, 2011 @ 12:14 IST

  36. There are no words. And they wouldn’t help you feel any better anyway. {{{{Hugs}}}} Clare :( (

    Comment by Clare — July 20, 2011 @ 12:21 IST

  37. We will truly miss you Brendan – but you’ll always remain in our hearts and in the amazing code you wrote for us – farewell geek !!!!

    Comment by Vineet Gupta — July 20, 2011 @ 12:22 IST

  38. I’m so sorry for your loss. Keeping you all in my thoughts.

    Comment by Linzk425 — July 20, 2011 @ 12:25 IST

  39. So so sorry, thinking of you all :-(

    Comment by Charlene — July 20, 2011 @ 12:29 IST

  40. I’m so sorry for your loss for you and your sons. I visited you at your house with my sister Nancy once and met you all.

    Comment by Ellen — July 20, 2011 @ 12:29 IST

  41. I’m so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the boys.

    Comment by Mitch Ross — July 20, 2011 @ 12:30 IST

  42. I’m so sad for all of you, Elana. So shockingly sad. While I only met Brendan a few times, he left a large, warm, thoughtful, intelligent and very positive mark on my life and work. Everyone in Educate Together will honour his memory making sure that we achieve all that he wanted achieved.

    Comment by Emer — July 20, 2011 @ 12:30 IST

  43. I have a lot of words, but none of them are right. This is bigger than words. I’m still thinking about you all the time, and sending positive vibes.

    Comment by EvilSusan — July 20, 2011 @ 12:40 IST

  44. Dear Elana, may the sweetness of memories and the strength of your love carry you and the boys through this devastating time. Sending love and peace from across the pond.

    Comment by Amy Tavio — July 20, 2011 @ 12:42 IST

  45. I am so sorry for all of you. My sympathy to you, your sons, and family.

    Comment by Holly — July 20, 2011 @ 12:42 IST

  46. Terribly sorry for your loss, Elana. Heartfelt condolences from myself and Aisling.

    Comment by Ken Guest — July 20, 2011 @ 12:49 IST

  47. My sympathies to you, the boys and your families. Remember that we are all here for you in this sad sad time. Hugs x

    Comment by Averil — July 20, 2011 @ 12:57 IST

  48. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Know that you have not left my thoughts or my heart.

    Comment by tristyn — July 20, 2011 @ 12:59 IST

  49. It’s hard to find words to express the level of sympathy we feel for you, as well as our own sense of loss at the passing of such a magnificent man. So much love to you and the boys. So much. We carry you in our hearts.

    Goodbye, Brendan. Every word matters. Every touch counts.

    Comment by Victoria — July 20, 2011 @ 13:00 IST

  50. Dearest Elana, The light that is Brendan will continue to shine through you and the boys and all the love he gave the world. We are soo sad and heartbroken. We love you. Aisha, Wayne, Leila and Luke.

    Comment by Aisha — July 20, 2011 @ 13:00 IST

  51. Elana, I’m really really sorry to hear the news. Thinking of you all. Lots of love and hugs.

    Comment by Keiko — July 20, 2011 @ 13:05 IST

  52. I am so sorry to hear this Elana. Love always to you and yours.

    Comment by Treasa — July 20, 2011 @ 13:05 IST

  53. I’m so, so sorry. All my love from Scotland – you and the boys are in my thoughts.

    Comment by Antje — July 20, 2011 @ 13:07 IST

  54. May Brendan rest in peace. Our prayers are with you and Brendan’s family. Let Pat or I know if you need anything. lots of love.

    Comment by Sabrina Q. — July 20, 2011 @ 13:09 IST

  55. Greg and I are very saddened by your loss. You remain in our thoughts.

    Comment by Skippy — July 20, 2011 @ 13:09 IST

  56. I’m so sorry for your loss. Thoughts, and prayers go to you out to your family today.

    Comment by Mary — July 20, 2011 @ 13:13 IST

  57. Dear Elana, I am so very sorry for you and the boys. I only met Brendan and yourself in the ‘real world’ just once, but Brendan will leave a profound and lasting impression on me. He was an amazing and funny man. My heartfelt sympathies to you, his family and your two boys. x

    Comment by Ciara — July 20, 2011 @ 13:16 IST

  58. My heart goes out to you and your family. I did not have many chances to meet Brendan in real life, but in the few times we did cross paths, his kindness, wit and gentleness made a lasting impression. Rest now, Brendan.

    Comment by Diego Novillo — July 20, 2011 @ 13:22 IST

  59. Rest very gently Brendan after this tough trip. It was such an honour, and such fun, to know you. I’m so sorry, Elana, P and E. x

    Comment by Michael — July 20, 2011 @ 13:29 IST

  60. Elana, I only knew Brendan through his blog, which was an inspiration. I hope and pray that his love, strenght, good humour and happy memories help you and your family through this time – my thoughts are with Brendan and with you all.

    Comment by Meg — July 20, 2011 @ 13:31 IST

  61. So, so sorry for your loss.

    Comment by Catherine — July 20, 2011 @ 13:38 IST

  62. So sorry for this loss. Continuing to pray for you and your boys.

    Comment by Sara — July 20, 2011 @ 13:40 IST

  63. I’m so sorry Elana – I will continue thinking of your family and sending much strength and love.

    Comment by Heidi — July 20, 2011 @ 13:56 IST

  64. I am very sorry for this terrible loss. May the gods bless you and your family. Take care and stay strong.

    Comment by Tony Russell — July 20, 2011 @ 13:57 IST

  65. Oh, Elana. I’m so so sorry for your loss. Sending much love to you and the boys

    xx

    Comment by Joanne — July 20, 2011 @ 13:59 IST

  66. So sorry Elana…wish I could be there in person for you and the boys but know my thoughts and love are with you and the boys.

    Comment by Rachel Leib — July 20, 2011 @ 14:03 IST

  67. Dear Elana, I only heard Brendan was unwell a few days ago. It’s hard to believe, so unreal. You have my deepest sympathies… Hopefully you can take some comfort from the wonderful outpouring of love in the comments from all of these friends. All my love.

    Comment by Joseph Little — July 20, 2011 @ 14:05 IST

  68. Dear Elana, I am so very sorry. Praying for strength for you.

    Comment by Chookie Inthebackyard — July 20, 2011 @ 14:08 IST

  69. Rest well, Brendan. You showed such courage and grace during your journey. Thank you for sharing it with us.

    Comment by Marieke Giasson — July 20, 2011 @ 14:17 IST

  70. My fabulous friend, who would talk tirelessly with me for hours and hours about the techiest of things; but who above all treasured his lovely and loving family. Brendan, I will miss you terribly. And to you Elana and to Patrick and Eoin, my deepest heartfelt sympathy. Farewell my friend – MartinO

    Comment by MartinO — July 20, 2011 @ 14:21 IST

  71. Elana, this is not what I wanted to hear and I know definitely not the plan you guys had for your lives. My deepest sympathies. Rest in peace, Brendan, and may his memory live eternally through your little boys and in your heart. <3

    Comment by Cheryl M — July 20, 2011 @ 14:25 IST

  72. RIP Brendan. May your spirit live on. Fly on the wings of an angel. Many prayers to send you on your journey to a wonderous place. Much heartfelt strength and love to your grieving family. Alli Young – CHS Class of 1989

    Comment by Alli Young — July 20, 2011 @ 14:27 IST

  73. Elena,

    Brendan was an infuential part of my High School experience. I enjoyed talking about books and computers with him mostly while ignoring the lessons taught in Calculus and while we were hatching plots against ‘Mr. Rug.’ I can not imagine the words that would express my sympathies for you and your family for your loss. All I can say is that although Brendan may have passed physically from this world, he is still alive in our thoughts, memories, and dreams. My most sincere condolences to you and your loved ones.

    Comment by Joost — July 20, 2011 @ 14:33 IST

  74. I am very sorry for your loss, recall him from ILUG.

    Comment by FrLinux — July 20, 2011 @ 14:34 IST

  75. I’m sorry, Elena.

    Comment by Edward Vielmetti — July 20, 2011 @ 14:37 IST

  76. So very sad to hear that Elana

    Comment by Karen — July 20, 2011 @ 14:42 IST

  77. Brendan was a great friend, colleague and mentor to me when I joined Cygnus back in 1993. I have enjoyed meeting up with you all as you fly in and out of Logan in recent years, and I really appreciated the chance to have dinner and catch up with him at the GCC summit last year. He will be greatly missed. My deepest sympathies go out to you and the boys.

    Comment by Jason — July 20, 2011 @ 14:46 IST

  78. Brendan left this earth entirely too soon, but he lives on in P and E and in your heart. Much love and strength in the coming days, weeks and months.

    Comment by Rhiannon — July 20, 2011 @ 14:52 IST

  79. Rest in peace, B.
    Love and light to your family, E.

    Comment by Randi Sue — July 20, 2011 @ 14:58 IST

  80. An amazing person I was fortunate to have known. My love to your family.

    Comment by Jeremy Randall — July 20, 2011 @ 15:08 IST

  81. I am so sorry for you and your boys.

    Comment by Rory Glynn — July 20, 2011 @ 15:14 IST

  82. This is incredibly tragic… Brendan and I worked together for a couple of years at Cygnus, and I was constantly impressed at how he always managed to find the best in everything and everyone. The world is a lesser place today. My thoughts are with you all.

    Comment by Andrew MacLeod — July 20, 2011 @ 15:14 IST

  83. Dear Elana, Brendan’s love will always be with you, but we will all miss him so much! Big hugs to you and the boys.

    Comment by Christian & Jackie — July 20, 2011 @ 15:18 IST

  84. I’m very sorry for your loss.

    Comment by Pádraig Brady — July 20, 2011 @ 15:20 IST

  85. I’m so sorry to hear this. I didn’t know him well but he always came across as thoughtful, smart and kind.

    Comment by Kevin Lyda — July 20, 2011 @ 15:42 IST

  86. May eternal light shine on him.

    Comment by Siobhán — July 20, 2011 @ 15:43 IST

  87. So very sorry to hear of your loss. Cancer has stolen so much from so many of us. Love and hugs from Maine.

    Comment by Mike Grey — July 20, 2011 @ 15:43 IST

  88. Oh Elana – I’m SO SORRY to hear of your loss. Love and hugs for you and your boys as you make it thru this disheartening time.

    Comment by Darci — July 20, 2011 @ 16:01 IST

  89. Sorry to the bottom of my heart for your loss, sending you love and positive vibes and knowing that you will get through this.

    Comment by EddieMc — July 20, 2011 @ 16:05 IST

  90. Really sorry. He was a lovely man; really enjoyed lunch time conversations (at Actel) with him, about what could happen in education, what was and wasn’t happening and what was needed to change it. I’m so sorry he’s gone.

    Comment by James Crook — July 20, 2011 @ 16:21 IST

  91. Sending many hugs for you and the boys.

    Comment by glee — July 20, 2011 @ 16:31 IST

  92. Oh Elana, my heart is breaking for you! I am so very sorry.
    Would that there were words that could make it all better. My prayers are with you and your family.

    Comment by Jen — July 20, 2011 @ 16:32 IST

  93. I’m so sorry for your unimaginable loss.

    Comment by Léan Ní Chuilleanáin — July 20, 2011 @ 16:39 IST

  94. And the world mourns the passing of such a wonderful man. I am so sorry for your incredible loss. I was shocked to tears, having just read his last post of a few days ago, which seemed a little hopeful… My thoughts are with you and your family.

    Comment by Jennifer — July 20, 2011 @ 16:42 IST

  95. So sorry for you and the boys. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

    Comment by Lizmcgpr — July 20, 2011 @ 17:32 IST

  96. My dear friend. My most sincere condolences. Brendan was such a special man. I’ve seen him come out through the most difficult accident. I was hoping for him to come through this, too. I’m sad with you. Sending you lots of hugs and thoughts for you and your family, Elana. *hugs*

    Comment by Jeff Kellem — July 20, 2011 @ 17:37 IST

  97. Elana, So sorry for your loss. Your family and your amazing husband our in my thoughts.

    Comment by Kerry Lien — July 20, 2011 @ 17:41 IST

  98. Just so terribly sorry for you and your family.

    Comment by caroline — July 20, 2011 @ 17:52 IST

  99. Elana I’m so so sorry to hear this. I only recently came to know Brendan through Twitter and his and your blog and I liked him. I know its a massive understatement but he will be missed. Hugs

    Comment by Sara — July 20, 2011 @ 17:54 IST

  100. A tragedy. I am so very sorry for your loss.

    Comment by Eric — July 20, 2011 @ 17:56 IST

  101. I am so sorry Elana, I cant believe it all happened so fast, my heart goes out to you and the boys. You are all in my thoughts, if there is anything I can do, just ask. HUGS AND KISSES TO YOU ALL! Stella

    Comment by Stella — July 20, 2011 @ 17:59 IST

  102. My condolences. We do not know each other but I saw this post linked on Carol Feller’s blog and also on Twitter. May the good Lord bless his soul and give you peace.

    Comment by Jocelyn — July 20, 2011 @ 18:12 IST

  103. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this awful time. Really sorry to hear such terrible news. Love xx

    Comment by Ger — July 20, 2011 @ 18:24 IST

  104. This blog has deeply moved me over the past weeks. His spirit lives on.

    Comment by Denis — July 20, 2011 @ 18:35 IST

  105. Deeply saddened to hear the news. Brendan was an inspiration to so many.

    Comment by Peter Flynn — July 20, 2011 @ 18:52 IST

  106. This is very sad news. I worked with Brendan at Cygnus and will always remember him as friendly, helpful, intelligent, interesting and kind – in short: a great role model. My family’s thoughts are with you and yours.

    Comment by Anthony Green — July 20, 2011 @ 19:33 IST

  107. I’m so sorry to hear this terrible news and my condolences, sympathies and warmest are with you, the boys and the rest of your families at this very difficult time. B will live on in all of our memories – May he rest in peace.

    Comment by Helen K — July 20, 2011 @ 19:45 IST

  108. Our hearts ache, our thoughts with you, the boys and your families.

    Craig & Melissa, Eva, Olivia & Isabelle

    Comment by Craig & Melissa Olson — July 20, 2011 @ 19:54 IST

  109. So, so sorry sweetie. My love to you and the boys.

    Comment by Ceire — July 20, 2011 @ 20:04 IST

  110. The world is a smaller place now, but better for the impact that Brendan had on it. I’m sorry, and my heart goes out to all of you he left behind.

    Comment by david zuhn — July 20, 2011 @ 20:04 IST

  111. Our deepest condolences on Brendan. We are saddened by your loss. This is an emptiness to be soon filled with grief. This was wonderful, original, brilliant man, and he will be missed tremendously by all of us. You are all in our thoughts. He knew how to shine.

    Love, Eamonn, Gayle, Scarlett, Magnolia, and Eamon Og

    Comment by Eamonn Keane — July 20, 2011 @ 20:10 IST

  112. Elana, I’m so sorry I hadn’t stayed just a little bit longer last night. I was so proud to be his ‘Aunt Mary’

    Comment by AuntM — July 20, 2011 @ 20:14 IST

  113. so sorry Elana for you and your boys. rest in peace, live in light

    Comment by Louise MacMahon — July 20, 2011 @ 20:15 IST

  114. I’m very sorry for your loss Elana, condolences to your family. Rest in Peace Brendan.

    Comment by Stephen Kinsella — July 20, 2011 @ 20:39 IST

  115. Elana, I am deeply deeply sorry for your loss and your boys. xxx Helen & sydney

    Comment by Helen Hayden — July 20, 2011 @ 20:45 IST

  116. I am so very sorry for your loss; I didn’t know Brendan but it’s clear he was a much loved and respected man and will be sorely missed. May he rest in peace.

    Comment by Annie — July 20, 2011 @ 20:47 IST

  117. Elana, this is indeed very sad news. I have so many fond memories of Brendan from the Cygnus days — we worked together pretty much every day, and he was a big piece of the soul of that machine. You guys are definitely in my thoughts. –krk.

    Comment by Kim Knuttila — July 20, 2011 @ 20:48 IST

  118. I’m sorry for your loss.

    Comment by Susan — July 20, 2011 @ 21:08 IST

  119. Elana, only met you once, not sure if you even had the boys then … my heart goes out to all of you … it’s taken all day to even write that much – I had to come home and give my four huge hugs after this :(
    Brendan, you’ll be sorely missed mate!

    Comment by Proinnsias — July 20, 2011 @ 21:37 IST

  120. It was a privilige, an honour.

    Comment by S — July 20, 2011 @ 21:44 IST

  121. I was proud to know him, even a little bit, and I’m even prouder to know you, Elana.

    Comment by Aoibhe — July 20, 2011 @ 22:39 IST

  122. I’m so sorry.

    Comment by Jan Andrea — July 20, 2011 @ 22:44 IST

  123. Terrible terrible news Elana, my thoughts are with you and the boys. I’m so sorry. May he rest in peace.

    Comment by Simon Palmer — July 20, 2011 @ 22:45 IST

  124. I’ve said it elsewhere, I thought I said it here, my deepest condolences.

    Comment by Deirdre — July 20, 2011 @ 22:55 IST

  125. Brendan, I will miss you.

    Comment by Margaret — July 20, 2011 @ 23:58 IST

  126. It is with a heavy heart I send you my warmest thoughts and extend my deepest condolences to you and your family.

    Comment by Irene — July 21, 2011 @ 00:08 IST

  127. I am sooooo very sorry for your loss.. I never knew him but I heard he was a great guy… Keeping you all in my thoughts & prayers as well.

    Comment by Jessie Boisvert — July 21, 2011 @ 00:13 IST

  128. So very, very sorry to hear this Elana, he put up a great battle and it was a great pleasure knowing Brendan.

    Comment by Ed Fidgeon-Kavanagh — July 21, 2011 @ 00:51 IST

  129. We are all saddened by your loss. It was a great pleasure knowing Brendan. We surely will miss him.

    Comment by Mitesh — July 21, 2011 @ 02:21 IST

  130. I know that there is no reason, and that trying to find one will do your head in. Words in general feel hollow, yet I am compelled to send my support and deep condolences on the loss of your precious partner. I am so very sorry for your loss.

    Comment by Birthingway — July 21, 2011 @ 02:35 IST

  131. Oh Elana, Just cant believe it, such a special, wonderful person who I will always remember with such fondness! Am thinking of you and the boys and your family and sending all my love xxx

    Comment by gilly — July 21, 2011 @ 02:52 IST

  132. I’m so sorry to hear this news, Elana. It was a pleasure knowing Brendan as part of our community. Please accept my condolences.

    Comment by Steve Yost — July 21, 2011 @ 03:17 IST

  133. So very, very sorry to hear of your loss. May the gentle things of the world comfort you in this time of mourning.

    Comment by Strata R Chalup — July 21, 2011 @ 05:23 IST

  134. Very sorry to hear about Brendan’s passing and your loss. He was a big contributor to the world and I imagine your life. He will be missed.

    Comment by Tim Pozar — July 21, 2011 @ 05:39 IST

  135. I’m so sorry to hear that. I met Brendan while we worked at Cygnus. He was a good man, and I’m glad to have known him.

    Comment by Ken Raeburn — July 21, 2011 @ 06:33 IST

  136. Words cannot express how sorry I am for your loss Elana. May he rest in peace.

    Comment by Dave Kasama — July 21, 2011 @ 06:36 IST

  137. Sad to hear this, although he’d certainly been attempting to prep me for it via his blog entries. Brendan was a great mentor and guide to me, and set me off into the world of unix in the most charming way possible, with Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance and a log file of shell commands. He will be greatly missed: my condolences.

    Comment by Benjamin Kosnik — July 21, 2011 @ 06:37 IST

  138. Dearest Elana, I am so sorry and am struggling to find the words to give you support. Brennan’s light has not left us, he is alive in you and all his friends. The love you shared is reflected in your children’ faces. I remember him with a smile and love for the great warmth and generosity of spirit he had. I pray he is at peace now, and that your journey may help your spirit recover from this horrible loss.
    Much love
    Diana

    Comment by diana — July 21, 2011 @ 08:10 IST

  139. Hugs …

    Comment by Amanda — July 21, 2011 @ 08:14 IST

  140. Elana,

    I worked with Brendan at Cygnus. I remember him as an incredibly smart, charming person – generous and gentle with his wisdom.

    My deepest sympathies to you and your children. I hope it is some comfort to know how highly people thought of him.

    Comment by Joyce Janczyn — July 21, 2011 @ 13:56 IST

  141. You will carry him always in your heart. I am so sorry for your loss.

    Ciara

    Comment by Ciara — July 21, 2011 @ 15:07 IST

  142. My heart is so heavy with this news. Elana we are all thinking of you and the boys. All of Islesboro is sending you strength and prayers.

    Comment by Nora — July 21, 2011 @ 19:20 IST

  143. Dear Elana, we are all so shocked especially the speed of the last few days. There is so much to say about B. He was a constant presence on rosmeen, out playing footie with the boys, returning from the punnet with veggies for dinner or just relaxing with a glass of wine out front. He touched us all and as sam said ‘I just can’t believe I’ll never see him again’ seems to sum it up. Reading his blog earlier a friend commented that you really get a strong sense of who he is, his likes, opinions that its a lovely legacy for you and the boys to stay connected with him. Especially for the boys to understand who their dad was as his personality shines throug. We will all be here for you, P&e especially over the next months. Love the Bks x x

    Comment by Vicky — July 21, 2011 @ 19:55 IST

  144. I’m so sorry for your loss… I enjoyed my chats with Brendan when we met in Maine many years ago for a funeral. And the short chats on Facebook.. He was an amazing man and friend and I was proud to know him and to call him cousin. Gerri – Ron’s mother – so often bragged about him and told me stories of him. I pray that they are both together, smiling down on us all.

    xoxo – Angel

    Comment by Angel Morey (Morey-Althenn) — July 21, 2011 @ 22:29 IST

  145. Brendan was one of the people who made Cygnus Support a success for all of us. When he arrived as employee #32 in August 1992, it was with incredible focus and energy for straightening out the twisted bits of C++ and G++, shortly after getting famous for writing Zen and the Art of the Internet. We were blessed to work together in his calm and helpful way. Years later, when his New Year’s Eve 1993 car crash in Philadelphia put him into a coma, the whole company worked together to give him a fighting chance, while he was working in the dark to find his way back to the light. We talked our insurance company into covering him, picked up his work, raised donations for his care and expenses, and flew employees and friends out to stay by his bedside and help in his treatment. Many of the creators of the Internet cared about him and spread the word about his injury; I have messages from Joyce Reynolds, Craig Partridge, Vint Cerf, and Dave Farber among others.

    A January 1994 update on his condition said “The doctors predict that if he recovers–he is still at risk of death–he will be aphasic. They are not certain whether he will
    be able to recover his ability to speak and comprehend language through
    rehabilitation.” He was speaking in numbers, saying things like “34, you know?” as he recovered. Yet he seized on his slim chance. On January 19, Brendan woke up, knew where he was, read the newspaper, and started having conversations (with no memory of the previous few weeks). He worked hard at rehabilitation. He sent an email to his well-wishers on Feb 21, and reported on Feb 23:

    I know for certain that I really lucked out—not only with
    the way everything’s healing quickly and pretty well, but mostly with the
    folks I’ve gotten to know and work with. No matter how things go, I know now
    that the way I look at everything has really changed…not even close to the
    same pessimism, and more importance to the “real” stuff. (Not to mention
    how I find a LOT more stuff damn funny.)

    He was back among us within about four months! By June he was answering technical questions with his usual humor (“If I remember right (quite a trick), …”). In April 1995 he was promoted to G++ group manager, and he was still there when I left Cygnus. After the wreck, his personality did change; he was less focused on high-tech achievement, and more focused on making a good well-rounded life for himself and those around him.

    Every day that we had with Brendan after the wreck was a miracle. Elana, since you met him after that, every day that you have had with Brendan was a blessing, an unexpected gift from the mystery of life. I’m sorry to hear that Death has finally taken Brendan from us, but proud to know how he beat Death once, with style, and gave all of us almost two decades more of his love and attention.

    Comment by John Gilmore — July 21, 2011 @ 22:59 IST

  146. We have lost one of our chroniclers, voyagers, visionaries, and fellow travelers on the long road that made places like this blog possible. And you’ve lost a husband and friend. Today we stand silently behind you.

    Comment by rsk — July 22, 2011 @ 00:17 IST

  147. So sorry Elana. He was a lovely man.

    Comment by Adam Beecher — July 22, 2011 @ 00:39 IST

  148. My heart goes out to Elana and all his family and friends. I’m so very sorry for your loss.

    I was shocked and saddened by this news. My father was his computer science professor while Brendan was at Widener University, and I met Brendan several times as a high school student. My dad always spoke very highly of him and had lots of stories that, to me, gave the computer field an extra coolness factor. He was a legend at Widener and within my immediately family. Even my youngest brother, who was only about 5-6 years old at the time, knows who Brendan was.

    Brendan took a data structures course with my father, and during this course it became apparent that he knew so much that all the students (and many of the faculty!) would go to Brendan for help on everything from simple UNIX stuff to programming in C/C++. My dad suggested that he write up some notes to serve as a UNIX cheat sheet and distribute them so that they wouldn’t have to bug him all the time. Brendan liked the idea, so he did it. Over time, he kept adding more and more information to the notes. I believe these notes (with the encouragement of Dave Farber?) eventually evolved into his book “Zen and the Art of the Internet”.

    I wanted to share with you my memory (and my father’s memory) of Brendan. Again, I’m so very sorry.

    Comment by Armando Caro, Jr. — July 22, 2011 @ 05:03 IST

  149. It just seems unreal.
    We’re so sorry for your loss.

    Love Richard, Marina, Francesc & Andreu.

    Comment by Richard — July 22, 2011 @ 14:06 IST

  150. I’m so sorry that I never got to meet Brendan f2f.

    Comment by Russ Nelson — July 22, 2011 @ 14:08 IST

  151. Ah I’m soooo sorry. x x x ;-)

    Comment by Nic — July 24, 2011 @ 00:24 IST

  152. Dear Elena My deepest Sympathies to you and the boys!
    I’m at a total loss for words!
    I’m so very sorry!

    Comment by Penguin Rudd — July 24, 2011 @ 01:09 IST

  153. Heartfelt condolences to you and your family, Elana. I knew Brendan only through his book but it helped to transform my life and the way I thought about the world. I was struck by how very much he loved life and loved sharing knowledge and information by reading his last post where he made a book recommendation that I will be sure to read. He was a true visionary and with all of the seduction of the internet and technology I always come back to his work which formed my own career in som many ways.

    Comment by Beverly Choltco-Devlin — July 30, 2011 @ 16:00 IST

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